Came across this article today in the morning and since it was from a
subscribed page of Reader’s Digest, I clicked on it. With the
morning blurriness still in my eyes, I quickly scanned through it.
Some things hit my brain, but my sluggishness did not believe my
eyes. And this was just the different headings of the article. I
scrolled back up to read it carefully because sometimes I’m too
quick to form an opinion. I usually read something three times in
order to take an action about it, in this case writing about it.
So here are the points that they shared and my opinion on them. And
I’m sure you guys would also have some opinions and I’m open to
feedback in case you think I have got it all wrong and did not
understand the article at all.
13 Things Scientifically Proven to Make You More Attractive Maybe she's born with it, as the commercial goes, or maybe it's these other factors super-sizing attractiveness.
Smile more if you're female
So of course being Reader’s Digest they have
stated data, statistics and studies that prove it. Now my point is
out of all the millions of studies in thousands of universities, why
would you choose this one. Smiling makes women look friendly and
"sexually receptive" (in other words, more interested in
having sex). "Evolutionarily, men have been programmed to seek
out women who will be receptive to their advances," Dr. Beall
says.
Umm.. that
sounds wrong to me at so many different levels and suddenly brings so
many things in perspective. That’s why when women smile it is
considered an acceptance at various levels. Thank you Dr. Beall for
explaining this to us. For men Smile= Let’s do it. I
think some men might even take offence to that statement.
And Ladies, keep that smile coming and if you don’t have a reason,
find more scientific reasons to smile in the same article. But
remember it makes you more attractive to the men’s subconscious.
And also I ask a question to men, really think about it deeply and
share that when a woman smiles, does your brain immediately imagine
her in bed and as a future good mother?
Wear red
What are some associations we have with the
color red? Passion, roses, heat, and...sex. For this very reason,
science
has shown that wearing red is one way
how to look more attractive.
Red is also
associated with Bull fighting and a fine cloth is used to attract the
bull. However, studies have also shown that Bulls are colour-blind
and react more towards the moving of the cloth than the colour. And
Oh! It irritates the hell out of them. So much that they want to
charge at it and kill whatever started that nonsense. I don’t
particularly wear red clothes and I know a lot of my friends who were
perfectly able to attract other heterosexual men and get attracted to
other colours of men wearing different colours of clothes. So men,
here is a question for you if a woman was wearing red means Charge??
Don't play hard to get
What does that even mean? The article states it
like everyone has an absolute understanding of the phrase. When you
read this point, Women might think they appear more attractive if
they keep their partner guessing as to how they really feel—and
some research does support this (one study
from China found that playing hard to get kept men's interest only
after they had chosen a prospective partner).
But a more recent study
from Germany suggests that people are
more likely to rate others as attractive if they can easily
understand the emotions they're displaying. The reason for this is in
the brain: How well the study participants could decode the other's
"neural vocabulary."
Really this
article opens up our eyes to realities and dimensions we did know
existed.
Speak in a higher pitched voice for women, lower for men
Ladies, think that smoky voice sounds sexy? You
might want to think again. Research from the U.K. has found that a
higher-pitched voice in women is more attractive to men—and vice
versa, that a lower-pitched voice in men is more attractive to women.
I really like
this one. Well I know men who have high pitched voice and women who
have “smoky voice”. Believe me when everyone is badly hungover,
no one wants a high pitched voice men or women. "Gender
dimorphic—in other words, typically feminine—qualities such as
these have been shown to increase men's sexual attraction to women."
The opposite would hold true for women, who evolutionarily seek out
male mates who are larger in size, signaled by a low voice. Wow
Dr.Beall you showed us the light again.
You have a voice
and why should there be a stereotype around that to attract people is
something I don’t understand. It sounds quite sexist to me, to be
very honest but hey, I’m strongly opinionated.
Have a sense of humor
"He makes me laugh," is one of the
reasons women often say they find their mate attractive. A sense of
humor in a man has been scientifically
proven to draw the attention of women.
"Studies have found that both women and men list 'a sense of
humor' as a highly desirable trait in a potential romantic partner,"
Dr. Beall says. "But other studies have found that only women
actually rate a funnier man as more desirable—women's desirability
was less affected by how funny they actually were." This means
women want men who make them laugh, but men want women to laugh at
their jokes.
Well, humour
makes the world a better place. Who doesn’t like a person who can
make them laugh. I’m close to most of my friends because we have a
sense of humour. We are not attracted to people all the time simply
because they are funny, sometimes it’s annoying. Isn’t it a
personal preference than a generalized one?
Get a dog
Pets are instant conversation-starters, and who
doesn't love a cute puppy? So it's not surprising that researchers
from France found
that women were three times more likely to give their number to a
dude with a dog as one without. Evolutionarily, "women tend to
allocate more resources to child rearing, while men devote more time
and energy to mating," Hal Herzog, PhD, a psychology professor
at West Carolina University and an expert in human-animal
interactions, wrote on Psychology
Today. So, "women should be more sensitive than
men to how their dates treat their own dogs and cats. Men, on the
other hand, should be more likely to use their pets to attract sexual
partners." According to a survey from the University
of Nevada, half of the women judged a
date based on how he treated his pet, and 35 percent said they were
more attracted to a man who owned a pet. Twenty-two percent of men
said they had used their pet to attract a mate. Hence, the popularity
of the Instagram account Hot
Dudes With Dogs! Here's how
your dog can tell when someone's being rude.
This one I
personally found irresponsible. And I vehemently disagree.
Please DO NOT get a dog for any other reason but to get a dog. The
study tells you statistics but it does not mean you have to get a dog
because you want to be attractive to someone.
Be kind
Believe me being kind will attract all sorts of
things towards you. Animals, humans, plants, everything. Everyone is
kind and we feel for things and issues that move us. And yes of
course, we all have our own perception of beauty and that extends to
internal beauty as well. So their point is that being kind will
attract the opposite sex- but that’s too limited a perception.
Groom yourself
Yes, Groom yourself or not because what you want
to. Not because there are certain criterias to be met socially. Women
in Victorian period did not take baths for days as that was the trend
and many had major skin diseases because of that. How did that work
or didn’t? And of course you can Find ou 15
ways to get gorgeous overnight. right
there.
Stop stressing
Just like how smiling and displaying kindness
make you more attractive, showing signs of stress, like bags under
your eyes or dull skin, makes you less attractive. And not just
because stress tends to show up on our faces—somehow, others can
sense that it's part of a weakened immune system.
Now being under
stress is more stressful for others clearly because they just cannot
deal with my weak immune system that shows bags under eyes. And of
course if I have stress in my life, the other gender will not be
interested because that makes me unattractive. Please can you not see
that you add stress to people’s life by making such frivolous
statements like that. Show concern and write a different article or
even better don’t add this point from this point of view.
Grow a beard
Biologically, heterosexuals look for typically
male or female traits in the opposite sex—the most glaring of which
for women is men's facial hair. "The research
indicates some sex-specific characteristics are
attractive—particularly those that highlight differences between
males and females," Dr. Nicholson says. "For example,
different styles of facial stubble and beards can signal a man's
masculinity." A recent study
from Australia found that women considered men with heavily stubble
the most attractive—but interestingly, rated men with full beards
as the highest for parenting ability and healthiness. Although a
beard's connection with health seems random, it actually may be true:
Beards are able to block
the sun's rays, so they might protect
against skin cancer. They may also keep dust and pollen from entering
the airway. And as for being a good dad, a beard might indicate that
a male is sexually mature and ready to reproduce.
Guys with beard
you are only attractive because you can become a good father and you
may be safe from skin cancer, the might facial hair.
Show off your curves
Women
tend to think men prefer thin figures—but the opposite might
actually be true. According to research,
men prefer a waist-to-hips ratio of 7:10, which means you're fairly
curvy and have "good childbearing hips." Biologically, men
might be onto something: Women with this waist-to-hip ratio have been
shown
to have optimal levels of estrogen, and are less prone to
cardiovascular disease and diabetes. You can play up your hips by
walking with a "swaying gait"—researchers at Texas
A&M University found that this
swinging motion was seen to be extra-feminine to men. "High
heels can accentuate women's feminine characteristics as well,"
Dr. Nicholson says, so if you really want to exaggerate your swinging
walk, science
says to wear heels. Read how science
has found the sexiest possible dance moves.
What
if I live in a country where I’m only able to go out in a Burqa,
would this point or article still apply to me?
Don't wear too much makeup
Subbotina
Anna/Shutterstock This one seems a bit counter intuitive: Aren't red
lips a draw for men? Yes, but only to a degree—in fact, women think
men like a lot more makeup than they actually do, according to a U.K.
study. "Women tailor their cosmetics use
to an inaccurate perception of others' preferences," the study
authors wrote. Another study
also showed that the amount of makeup women wear can impact others'
impressions. "Faces with natural makeup were seen favorably but
faces with more dramatic makeup were seen as less trustworthy,"
study author Nancy Etcoff, PhD, a research psychologist at
Massachusetts General Hospital, says.
But, she also says women don't wear makeup
just to please men; they wear it because it
makes them feel more confident—which
may be another way how to be more attractive. Here are easy
beauty tips lazy girls will appreciate.
Wearing make up or not is my prerogative of my
expression. What people think of my make up is not my concern and I
definitely do not wear make up to please and seduce men. Taking a
queue from Mallika Dua, I would say “It is not about the make ups
but the fuck ups”
Hang out with friends
William
Perugini/Shutterstock Due to the "cheerleader effect"
(coined by How I Met Your Mother's Barney Stinson) people
appear more attractive when they're in a group. But Barney's
observation is actually based in science. Research
from the University of California showed that study participants
rated pictures of people in a group as more attractive than people
alone. This is because we tend to "average out" faces in a
group, making less attractive members more so. But why would we want
an average face? "Typical or average facial features have been
shown to be initially attractive and appealing to potential
partners," Dr. Nicholson says. A study
from Spain showed that men actually prefer
women with facial "averageness"—how closely the size,
color, and shapes of face resembles other faces in a population.
Averageness is thought
to be more attractive because it indicates a
diverse gene pool, which would lead to healthy offspring. Avoid these
nine
dating mistakes if you're over 40.
I’m quite speechless
by the end of this article. I expected better from Reader’s Digest.
Hanging out with your friends is about your time with them and not
about attracting others.
You are attractive
whether you are walking in a burqa and no one can see you, whether
you are reading a book alone at a bar and not hanging with friends
wearing a not red dress, whether you are smiling or shouting angrily,
whether you have a beard or a dog. You are beautiful in your stress
and your in your pyjamas. And being kind attracts the universe. So
all in all I would say we are all doing fairly well without articles
like these telling us what to do.
